New mothers must be given extra compassion and support throughout Christmas. It’s a time of year that already brings up emotions. Postpartum feelings are heightened during this season.
Whether hosting or traveling, new moms will benefit from the following considerations.
Honor Boundaries
Not all mothers enjoy being surrounded by eager relatives and friends dying to hold their new baby. They also need a break from the barrage of questions aimed at them or their little ones. It should only take a single “no” to make people step back and give a mom her space.
Make Her Feel Special
New moms might ask for help instead of playing hostess when visitors arrive. Be understanding that her world is upside down, and she is sleep-deprived. Compliment something about her or her home to make her feel special since most people focus solely on the baby. Also, be ready to pitch in. whether it’s laundry, cleaning, or meal preparation, know ahead of time to expect it and oblige happily. The most harmful thing a new parent could feel is shame or guilt for requesting help. Find out ahead of time what to bring to make the evening go smoother or assist with her self-care. Be prepared not to hold the baby. Respect the level of closeness the mom is willing to share. Conversely, the mom might welcome your offer to hold her child while she catches up on rest.
If the parents feel ready, offer to babysit so they can venture out for an actual date. It can be very isolating for new parents during the first six months. Their lives become an endless cycle of diapers, bottles, feedings, and sleeping in short bursts. Arrange an at-home spa day or a fun movie night for moms who aren’t yet ready to be separated from their little ones. Recreating a spa experience with the girls can be as straightforward or complex as you want. There are countless DIY websites on ways to recreate the experience.
Alter Traditions
Typically, the Christmas season is a time of year that elicits memorable traditions. People gather at residences or venues to exchange presents and eat bountiful feasts. When a baby arrives, all parties must understand that new parents might be too exhausted to maintain the typical seasonal festivities. While this may be disappointing for some, remember that it’s a temporary change. The bigger picture is what’s important. Think about the joy that a new addition brings rather than focusing on changes in plans or your disappointment.